The next thing that I want to focus on, is probably getting a higher level of efficiency and getting into the right state of mind more quickly than I did before.
Something else crept into my mind during the past couple of days, and that is, there are a lot of empty gaps that I am noticing as I go about moving along the day. The thing about these gaps were, I think I was repeating the same questions and trying to self validate the reasons as to why I want to pursue those things. As a matter of fact, there was actually a lot of food for thought when I went through Saturday. So how do am I going to be able to separate all the junk from the stuff that really matters?
First off, perhaps things were not exactly junk. But I think the gaps that present themselves most obviously was taking that action that was going to fulfil me. The thing was, that I have not even began to plan my course of action, what strategy I was going to pursue, what kind of goals am I going to set for myself, and what would I need to do to achieve those goals.
I guess the main reason for not proceeding with doing it, was that I really needed a high level of certainty, on the reasons as to why I was going to do things. For one, if my reasons were not strong enough to pull me towards doing what I will ultimately do, I would simply just be doing things for the sake of doing them. I really needed time to think, and I needed to write things down. On how these things are going to impact my life.
Now having perhaps wrote over a thousand words on my views my perspectives, talking to myself, reflecting on what is happening on a day to day basis, it all really comes back to knowing the reason why I am about to embark on the things that I am going to do.
Having ranted in full sentences for the past several days, I think its probably going to be more beneficial to look at stuff that I did in point form.
On Saturday morning :-
1) Watched the 3 way talk from Tony Robbins, Frank Kern & John Reese. Main topics included having that vision of the future, and just knowing that it is inevitable that you will arrive at that place and situation.
2) Understanding that a huge percentage of people give up on what they embarked on, and a lot of people in spite of getting started, a lot of times they gave up. They don’t get the results. How do you get people to follow through? What’s the right thing to do and what is the wrong thing to do?
3) Good place to start: “I’m sick of this”. People typically hit rock bottom before they respond to it. We aren’t in a must situation yet, but we are in a desire situation.
4) What pisses you off and what excites you, its all relative. So we have to find the right ritual on a daily basis in order make the change, and then get to the place that we want to go.
5) Tony Robbins shared 4 key factors for people to move from 1 place to another.
Potential -> Action -> Results -> Belief -> Potential again
What if something comes along and can provide you with absolute certainty that this thing is going to work? When you are absolutely certain, you will do anything it takes to increase your potential and take massive action and achieve those massive results.
How do I produce certainty, when the world is not going to give it to me?
We got results in our head, and by visualising the outcome, keeping focused on that vision, you will eventually change your beliefs, know that huge potential that you have to take massive action. If you can visualise success, your beliefs will change accordingly. If you visualise failure, you will get what you believe. As John Reese mentioned, its really like a self fulfilling prophecy.
So, basically in the morning, I was really focused on how do get my mind into that peak state, and stay focused on the vision I have for those passions I listed.
Following that, I began to write down in my notebook, what type of visions do I have for those passions that I have. At that point I was just laser focused on what I wanted and what I visualised about teaching English, my vision for my Tennis and combined my thoughts for Human connection and personal motivation. I haven’t wrote about what I had envisioned about Music yet, but I already have it vividly in my head, and I know this vision is just not only going to drive me, but it was going to pull me towards it.
The video also emphasised a lot about mental conditioning, being laser focused on the rituals that we will ultimately decide on doing.
While writing on my notebook, I remembered the video I watched about Selling your Crap, paying your debt and doing what you love. I then wrote down what I was going to do on Sunday, and that was selling my crap. So having done that, I realised that for the first time in a very long while, I actually had a day on the weekend planned out. I was going to spend time disconnecting and repacking those things I was going sell. And by doing that, I actually free up funds to cover the cost of pursuing those passions.
Another really productive thing I did in the morning before heading off for my trial piano lesson, was that I just had enough time to watch a video from Tony Robbins about his Rapid Planning Method, and I managed to write that down onto my notebook. Still maintaining that keenness and excitement of moving forward and make another small step towards my ultimate goal.
I was also pretty happy with myself, that for once in a very long time, I took a shower earlier, changed early, and did my preparation in a very leisurely manner, without the need to rush to the piano lesson. It was a really small thing but it made a very big difference in making the first half of the morning great.
The piano lesson turned out better than I expected, and I was just ecstatic yet strangely nervous before heading into the trial lesson. Turns out, although 3 people registered for the trial lesson, I was the only one who showed up. So I had a really good opportunity to talk to the piano teacher 1 on 1. It was just so nostalgic to look at musical notes again, and although I had forgotten a lot of it, I was able to connect with the teacher easily. Having been a musician myself for a decade allowed me to understand what it takes in order to succeed at becoming competent in playing music. I realised looking back, it has been ages since that I had the high level of enthusiasm, and I raised many valid questions on how I should practice, what is the route map of the course, how long was it going to take, and what kind of level I was going to achieve when I arrive at the final level. Seeing him play Careless whisper on the piano, gave me a real solid vision of what level of music I will be playing in the future. I knew that it was going to involve a lot of work, and I kinda knew what I needed to do to get there, but that didn’t discourage me at all. I just discovered more clearly on how I was going to achieve it.
With that piano lesson, it already made it an awesome day. I met a piano teacher that appeared to be very good natured, and I really liked his demeanour. I managed to understand more about visualising my goals, and I stayed focused on those passions that I had defined.
The afternoon was just a time for me to relax, and enjoy being in good company. We ate, drank, played texas hold’em and it really was stress relieving. One interesting thing to take away from eating and merry making yesterday, was when Kiki shared about how hugely rich the people around her in China were. She shared multiple stories on how her friends and relatives back in China, had so much money that it just didn’t matter what they did. They could change their cars in a whim, go to expensive VIP cafes and restaurants at a whim, buy expensive clothing, and not needing to care about their spending at all. Having listened to those stories on the rich living their lives richly, to me was indeed intriguing, but it didn’t make me envious at all about how they live their lives. I mean, if your problem is about deciding what’s the next paint job you want on your Lambo, I wonder if you’re truly happy despite all these possessions. Perhaps I was already in that zone where my life’s context was just completely different from what she shared, and although I could understand what she was trying to say, that wealth is so easily available in China, I started to think to myself. Is there going to be any opportunity for me? What would I do with the information she shared? Would it be a better idea if I went to China and start a business? How would life be like? Most important of all, how does that apply to my visions and passions that I have been spending my time on.
Come to think of it, yesterday after the long chat over coffee, I asked myself this question, was really what she said really pointless? Was there really nothing that I could take away from by what she shared about how people get wealthy and generate more wealth and have such huge abundance, that they could do anything they wanted. Now thinking about it, I am actually making a decision here. Do I choose to ignore it, or at least consider it? Being the person that I am, I always want to understand things from other people’s perspective a little bit more. And I decided that, “Hey… this is something that I need to think about too.”
Aside from looking at personal fulfilment, was it going to factor wealth into the equation? Am I having a really limited vision of what would make me happy and fulfilled? What would it mean to me to start my own company? If I were to think of a business idea, what would it involve? How am I going to start making passive income? And I realised that although I have discovered my passions and what I need to focus, I also need the time and energy to dedicate it to attaining financial freedom. Because while pursuing those passions that I have listed, I wonder how its going to make money. If I was going to start a company, what would my company be about? What would I promote? Do I have good ideas? Do I just copy a business model and just go do it? How much money would I need to invest? How long will it take to turn around profits etc… and this just to me right now, it feels like I’m just opening another can of worms here. There is just such a huge challenge to look at things from a sound business perspective. And looking inwards, there just isn’t any part of me that wants to venture into a business at the moment. However, I shouldn’t close the door on that yet. As a matter of fact, I think I also need to spend more time on how I was going to make my money work for me, instead of the other way round.
The next question is… when am I going to do it? Will it cause me to lose focus on my passions? Why would I even think of that in the first place? I guess this is where I have what Tony Robbins described as inner conflict. You want to do something that will change your life, but you think that by pursuing that, its not going to improve your financial situation, and then you just get mixed emotions about it, and you just lose that focus, give up, and then settled for a non-decision. The problem with that, as I have experienced first hand, its the choice of making non-decisions that got me into this situation in the first place.
So with that. I need to make a decision quickly. What action am I going to take when it comes to money? How can I ensure that I stop having inner conflicts with money? For one, I believe that by teaching English tuition part time is going to make a difference. That is the only thing for the moment that can synchronise my passions with money. So with that, I need to plan and strategise how am I going to kickstart teaching tuition, how often am I going to teach, how much extra money can I make a month, what goals do I want to achieve, and what goals am I going to set for the kids I’m going to teach.
Heading back home now to get my crap ready for sale, and I hope that I still have enough time to write my vision for Music before heading off to meet Cherr for dinner.